Build Your Own Relationship

Is your relationship the type of relationship that you dreamed it would be?

You know, the way you dreamed it would be back when you were 5, 10, 13, before all the heartaches, frustrations and disappointments?

Or is your relationship journey turning into a stream of nightmare reruns?

It's strange how life has a way of turning our dreams into nightmares; that is if we let it.

But I'm here to tell you that you don't have to let go of your dream.

Here are 5 Ways To Turn A Nightmare Relationship Into A Dream Come True:

1. Make a Decision

Don't wallow in self-pity. Don't play the 'woe is me' game. God 'ain't' having it! No matter how bleak your romantic life is or how alone you may feel in your current situation, you have to remember that you are just one decision away from changing your life, your future, your destiny.

So do it today, do it now!

Think about this... you have lived your life for some 25, 35, 45 years or more. You have been through a lot of things and yet still you rise! Which means that what you're going through now is just another notch on your belt to your road to success.

2. Get up

So you've fallen. And maybe you've fallen for the wrong person; over and over again. So what! This is your life! You have to enjoy the process of learning from your good choices and your bad choices.

But just remember in the words of Les Brown, "If you fall, land on your back. Because if you can look up you can get up!"

3. Become the little kid again

Play! Play! Play! Don't ever stop playing. Life is too short to stop playing. Laugh like a child. Play like a child! And by all means BELIEVE like a child? 'for such is the kingdom of God'.

There will be those that will come to try and wipe the smile off your face. Don't spend your energy on these types of people. They are unhappy with themselves and want other people to be unhappy, too. Just recognize people like that and when you come in contact with them do step 4.

4. Run

Run as far away as you can from the dream stealers. This could be your so-called 'best friend', your family members, or even your spouse. I don't care who they are. If you know in your heart, and they have omitted it with their mouth, that they don?t want to see you happy, you better run.

Or, would you rather face the other alternative. That is, stay and let them enslave you to their life of misery. And little by little allow them to snuff the flower of your life away? I didn't think so. So run!

5. Be Thankful

You presented your heart to the one(s) that swore they loved you. They took it, they crushed it and left you in despair. But remember, from the crushing of the world's most beautiful roses are derived the aromas of many of the world's most expensive perfumes.

So just thank them. For without their help you may have never arrived to the place of wisdom and knowledge that you are at now.

Copyright 2006 Gil Bryan